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What I learnt about money in 2023

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Ah, here we are again! The most wonderful time of the year, or a bit of a damp squib where we are all too knackered to really enjoy the festivities and starting to panic for the new year. In our house it’s somewhere in the middle, so some brilliant quality family time, nice walks in the woods and suppers by the fire, as well as lots of early nights and the occasional argument. So far, so normal (whatever the advertisements try and make you believe), but I have definitely enjoyed the lack of pressure and a chance to just unwind with the kids.

Firstly, I learnt that I want to make some changes to this blog and how I show up in the personal finance space and beyond, so watch this space for some exciting announcements!

Overall though, this year has been an interesting one financially. Here are some key things I learnt:

I spent big on things which I felt were worth it, without giving it another thought. Whilst I remain relatively frugal (well – ‘fake frugal‘ is more like it, still have issues with the version of how I spend money as it exists in my mind, and how it exists in my bank account), mindful spending doesn’t really concern me. In 2023 this was mostly holidays and travel, including a trip to see the Northern Lights with the kids in January; a major birthday party joint with my best friend in August; and a family holiday with them and my mum by train across four countries in October. I paid for all of these, with the elements not for my children being gifts for birthdays/ Christmas etc, but they were all fabulous.

There are different kinds of privilege and cultural expectations, and that these impact our financial lives. This absolutely isn’t news – even my reflections above noted how much of that holiday money was spent to ensure that the people I love could come with me. I am white, and do not claim experiences like the Black Tax in which the responsibility of taking people with you on an upwardly mobile journey can make that journey much slower. But my own background means that, as a friend told me, I am ‘the success story, the one that got out‘. And that comes with responsibilities to extend a hand, repeatedly, to family and friends who are struggling. 2023 saw a lot more people struggling than before, and it feels like there is more pressure to support people around me, and less opportunity for others to extend that same support to me. I am happy to be here for people, but it’s also getting kind of exhausting.

The emergency fund is real. I had what felt like endless emergencies this year – broken pipes, a flooded basement, a broken school laptop for my son, a missed car MOT and on and on. All of these things mattered, but the head space was taken up by trying to find workmen in Denmark who are available and will actually come through, rather than freaking out about being able to pay for things. Since both my dishwasher and Quooker (boiling water tap thing) both stopped working during Christmas, I don’t expect that there will be fewer outgoings in 2024, but the money is there. And having that peace of mind is what I saved it for!

Being savvy with your money matters – as does understanding just enough about economic policy and trends. A lot of 2023 was watching interest rates and inflation rise. Whilst this sort of felt like more economic blah and uncertainty, the average impact on UK mortgage holders was a rise of about £300 a month, or £3,400 per year, on the same mortgage. If you are struggling financially that is a massive, unexpected increase in your outgoings, and isn’t based on anything you have control over. So whilst this post isn’t about what 2023 looked like globally on finance (TLDR, not great) being aware of what the risks are and keeping a weather eye on what might be coming your way, really does matter.

What did you learn in 2023?

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New Year 1: Getting started with money

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So here we are again, another year! Having started off with a cheerful little post on loneliness, I wanted to come back to thinking as the FIRE community, where you are definitely not alone. Whether you are new to thinking about personal finance or fully on your path, the new year offers a moment to take stock and think about where you want to be, and how you will get there.

Woop! Photo by zero take on Unsplash

Now, I don’t really make New Year’s resolutions. As my dear friend said – why add pressure? Why not just resolve to be kind to yourself, and treat yourself well? I think that is sage advice, but I do like to find tangible ways to treat myself well (and also to myself, said with love – this does not involve a cold beer and some cheese straws).  I’ve written before about how managing your finances is an act of radical self care and it’s certainly true for me.

I know lots of people find thinking about finance stressful: try imagining instead that dealing with your money is a way of reducing stress now and in the future. You might have to sit and do some tedious legwork now, but what if it meant no more sleepless nights worrying about money? What if it freed up some brain space for you to dream and act on those plans? Now that’s worth a resolution.

So my advice to you, especially if you are just getting started, is to give yourself a break. We’ve all had a hard few years, and a lot of the financial (and other) news coming out suggests that 2022 isn’t going to be a bunch of roses either. The most important thing though is to give yourself some grace and some space, not just because you deserve it but because when you are ready to work on your finances (or your weight, your love life or your novel) you will come from a place where you are more centred and compassionate, and more able to engage.

New year, same old you, but maybe with some new ideas. Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash

I also believe there are a lot of easier ways to cut through the white noise of financial confusion. My next few posts will cover some options as to how to knock your finances into shape for 2022, when you are ready.

There is a ton of financial guidance out at this time of year. January feels like a fresh start, plus it’s common to come out of the holiday period feeling a bit queasy about overspending, or about carrying debt into yet another year. Sometimes the advice can be helpful, but I find many of them either over simplify – “set a budget and stick to it” is a frequent gem which makes me think “oh thanks! :facepalm:” – or cram so many different things in that it can feel overwhelming.

So my new year financial resolutions are limited to the following:

  • Audit: Work out what my fixed costs are;
  • Pay myself first: Work out what I can reasonably save and ensure that it is automated to come out straight after I get paid;
  • Burn the budget: Basically, I’m not going to sweat what happens with the rest of my money. I mean, within reason.

And that’s it. Simples! Looking forward to sharing my audit process, and my own results, next week. Until then, put your feet up and finish off the Christmas chocolates. You got this.

Grace and space first: everything else will come. Photo by Nitish Meena on Unsplash