What is this blog about, and who is it for?

What is this blog about, and who is it for?

This blog was born because I couldn’t find anything like it. I started it as a single British woman in my late thirties, living with my two primary age children when we had just moved to Denmark. As of 2024, I am in my mid-40s, with all the joyful tween and teen years for my children that entails. And whilst we are still in Denmark, my career means that I expect to move countries in the coming years.

I started this blog through a love and interest in the Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) community. However, whenever I needed advice or a community to talk to about being a great single parent, living on a budget, or planning my side hustle, I struggled to find information that resonated. Sometimes it was because I’m single; other times, because I felt I had a different ethical approach which I didn’t see reflected. If you have similar needs, or just want to see a real story of personal and financial growth during what sometimes feels like times of real challenge, I hope this blog can be a great space for you too.

I cover several main topics focused on financial independence, personal finance, social justice and lifestyle management all through my own personal journey:

My Personal Financial Journey: I walk you through my own experiences and challenges as a single mother working towards financial independence. This includes dealing with emergencies, budgeting, and managing household expenses​, as well as making long term financial decisions for my children and wider family.

Financial Tips and Strategies: Whilst I don’t give advice I aim to provide practical thoughts on money management, including tips on setting up an emergency fund, being savvy with money. I also share how I try to spend mindfully toward the life I want to create, whilst optimizing on spending like meal planning, travel, and activities with my children.

Financial Planning: I also share my own journey of planning for the short, medium and long term, looking at retirement planning, raising money savvy kids, and preparing for my children and other loved ones’ financial futures. A lot of this links to career planning and how (and why) I think about getting to ‘work optional’.

FIRE Community and Inspiration: Whilst not everything resonates, I have found a great FIRE community  with a lot of inspirational stories and resources from well-known figures in the community, such as Tiffany Aliche (The Budgetnista), Paula Pant, and Mr. Money Mustache. I also regularly share recommendation for podcasts and books that are helpful for financial education and inspiration based on what I am finding interesting and useful as my journey continues.

Policy and Social Justice: Personal finance might be personal but it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. I aim to explore policies and trends which impact on our money including cost of living issues, issues impacting the stock market, and changes in budgets and taxation relevant to a UK audience. I also focus on social justice and how I understand that neither how we make or spend money is the same for everyone.

Goal Setting and Accountability: I highlight and give tips on the importance of setting realistic financial goals, having an accountability partner (and what that looks like for single parents particularly), and staying focused on financial plans is a recurring theme. I share my own goal-setting process and regular reflections on progress, both financial and how I am feeling about it all.

Disclaimer: The content on this blog is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended as financial advice. Please consult with a qualified financial advisor before making any financial decisions.

2024 Financial Goals

I don’t like to be rushed 😀 Which is why I’m sharing my financial goals now, three weeks into January. I’ve also been having fun over on my Insta – come join me there for daily tips on finance, saving money, food, mindfulness and more.

In all seriousness – showing up whenever you are ready is fine. There is a lot to be said for just doing it now, and evidence suggests that a lot of people don’t reach their financial (and other goals) because they are procrastinating. But getting to it when you are ready and in the right mindset, rather than on an arbitrary deadline, also puts you in charge.

So let’s focus on getting this done now. I set my financial goals on a call with my accountability partner a couple of weeks ago, and have been fine-tuning them since then. Before I dig in I wanted to share some reflections on discussions with this community and things I have noticed about previous years – these three things are totally linked, and can become a vicious cycle so it’s worth digging into them if you feel stuck:

Don’t procrastinate. Yeah, yeah – getting to things in your own time is different from just not getting there. You know in yourself when you’re getting into the right mindset or moment, and when you’re lying to yourself. This is wher an accountability partner can be great – someone to call you out, lovingly, when you are still ‘waiting for the right time’. With financial issues, procrastination can cost you big time. Compound interest means that the earlier you make a move to save and invest, the more the money will grow to. Inflation means that the money in your hand will likely never be worth more than it is today. Not paying off debt increases the amount you spend on interest (and likely the stress in your mind). Are any of those costs worth it?

If there is anything holding you back, I strongly advise you to find out why you haven’t done it yet – think about your money mindset. People don’t procrastinate because they are lazy or stupid – we all have things which hold us back from making moves, even if they are so embedded in our subconscious that we don’t really understand them. You may be held back by fear or shame (what if I find out I spend all my money on nonesense and I’m embarrassed about what I have wasted up to now?) or by limiting beliefs (What’s the point in budgeting for my food shop – I’m never going to make enough for my big dreams anway). Or by the sense that you’ve tried this before and nothing has stuck. All of these are totally understandable, but they will all just hold you back. So dig into how you feel and spend some time getting your mind right.

Dreaming big is amazing, but make sure it feels meaningful, rather than feeling overwhelming. Setting huge goals is a big driver for many people, and I definitely don’t advocate playing small when setting out your ambitions. Part of the work is to come down a level or two from the big goal and set out smaller approaches on a timeline. I always try and set goals which are realistic with stretch – they aren’t so easy that they will happen even without me getting behind them, but they aren’t so insane that it’s less ‘doing the work’ and more ‘wishful thinking’.

For me, 2024 is a strange year financially as I have to move jobs. My company has mandatory rotation (i.e. you can’t stay in one place for more than five years – it’s more complex than this but this is what it means for me right now) and I haven’t been with them long enough for them to have to find me a job. So by 1st January 2025, I could very easily be out of work. There are many reasons why I don’t believe this will happen, but I do have to find another position, and it will 90% certain mean moving countries. This isn’t unusual for the kids and I, but it’s not very relaxing and also means making other choices with money which prepare for a time when I might not be earning. In addition, my son starts Year 11, or his GCSE exam year in the summer of 2024, meaning if I don’t have a job yet I might have to stay without work until the summer of 2025 when he is done, and move then.

So many moving parts! But my aim is to set financial goals and be ok with trying to get a strong foundation in case the worst happens, whilst preparing for the best.

These might all seem somewhat woolly, but for me this is the first step. Looking at how to save more, be accountable, and stay focused, comes next in terms of building out detailed approaches. But for now I am happy that I have enough focus, and optimism, to make 2024 work for me.

How are your financial goals looking?