Ah, here we are again! The most wonderful time of the year, or a bit of a damp squib where we are all too knackered to really enjoy the festivities and starting to panic for the new year. In our house it’s somewhere in the middle, so some brilliant quality family time, nice walks in the woods and suppers by the fire, as well as lots of early nights and the occasional argument. So far, so normal (whatever the advertisements try and make you believe), but I have definitely enjoyed the lack of pressure and a chance to just unwind with the kids.

Firstly, I learnt that I want to make some changes to this blog and how I show up in the personal finance space and beyond, so watch this space for some exciting announcements!

Overall though, this year has been an interesting one financially. Here are some key things I learnt:

I spent big on things which I felt were worth it, without giving it another thought. Whilst I remain relatively frugal (well – ‘fake frugal‘ is more like it, still have issues with the version of how I spend money as it exists in my mind, and how it exists in my bank account), mindful spending doesn’t really concern me. In 2023 this was mostly holidays and travel, including a trip to see the Northern Lights with the kids in January; a major birthday party joint with my best friend in August; and a family holiday with them and my mum by train across four countries in October. I paid for all of these, with the elements not for my children being gifts for birthdays/ Christmas etc, but they were all fabulous.

There are different kinds of privilege and cultural expectations, and that these impact our financial lives. This absolutely isn’t news – even my reflections above noted how much of that holiday money was spent to ensure that the people I love could come with me. I am white, and do not claim experiences like the Black Tax in which the responsibility of taking people with you on an upwardly mobile journey can make that journey much slower. But my own background means that, as a friend told me, I am ‘the success story, the one that got out‘. And that comes with responsibilities to extend a hand, repeatedly, to family and friends who are struggling. 2023 saw a lot more people struggling than before, and it feels like there is more pressure to support people around me, and less opportunity for others to extend that same support to me. I am happy to be here for people, but it’s also getting kind of exhausting.

The emergency fund is real. I had what felt like endless emergencies this year – broken pipes, a flooded basement, a broken school laptop for my son, a missed car MOT and on and on. All of these things mattered, but the head space was taken up by trying to find workmen in Denmark who are available and will actually come through, rather than freaking out about being able to pay for things. Since both my dishwasher and Quooker (boiling water tap thing) both stopped working during Christmas, I don’t expect that there will be fewer outgoings in 2024, but the money is there. And having that peace of mind is what I saved it for!

Being savvy with your money matters – as does understanding just enough about economic policy and trends. A lot of 2023 was watching interest rates and inflation rise. Whilst this sort of felt like more economic blah and uncertainty, the average impact on UK mortgage holders was a rise of about £300 a month, or £3,400 per year, on the same mortgage. If you are struggling financially that is a massive, unexpected increase in your outgoings, and isn’t based on anything you have control over. So whilst this post isn’t about what 2023 looked like globally on finance (TLDR, not great) being aware of what the risks are and keeping a weather eye on what might be coming your way, really does matter.

What did you learn in 2023?